How can a person have a blog with so many desserts on it and still have a section about weight loss? It seems kind of contradictory, kind of mad. To me it makes perfect sense. For a person to have any hope of keeping the weight off that they lose they need to be a member of the world. They need to participate in the things that they love and they need to embrace what makes them truly happy. Excess weight in my opinion is your body’s way of saying “I’ve been unhappy”. This unhappiness shows itself in many different ways to different people. In me unhappiness shows it’s way in weight gain. Of course I’m using the word unhappiness to cover a very broad spectrum of emotion: boredom, frustration, stress, disappointment, anger. Basically any feelings that I don’t want to feel are very easily blotted out by food. Strangely, I feel a little embarrassed writing this like I don’t want any one to know about this deep dark secret of mine.
I used to smoke. I loved it! I thought it was the most amazing thing in the world kind of like my best friend. Always there for me that sort of thing. In the beginning I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it. I told my self that it was all blown out of proportion. That health nuts were just attacking it because it was the next on their list. It took me a long time to realize that there was anything wrong with what I was doing. Once I did realize it I started heading in the direction of quitting. Now it’s been almost 5 years. I’m not going to lie I still miss it from time to time but I would never do it again because I know it’s just not a good idea.
Overeating is the same thing. It’s something I’ve done for years with out really thinking much about it. Honestly most of the time I really enjoyed it and then one day I realized what I was doing. I was accepting a life that I didn’t really enjoy and I was using food to do it. Life hasn’t been the same since. I don’t want food…I want a life that I don’t have to accept. Simply heading in that direction is all that it took to make me feel better. I felt like I had a little control back.
Desserts are treats. They really are. If you are living the kind of life where you need a treat every day or several times a day maybe it’s time to take a look at the life you’re leading. Life itself should be a treat it shouldn’t be something that you need to medicate yourself to get through. It’s not right when the only thing you have to look forward to is food. Now having said this that doesn’t mean that suddenly all your bad habits disappear the moment you see that they’re there. It takes time to change a life into something that you enjoy especially if it has fallen into the wayside but you can do it. Just like letting go of any bad habit you will have good days and bad. You will have relapse. It’s never about how many times you drop the ball just keep going and you will get there.
Don’t be angry with yourself for being overweight or for living a life that doesn’t satisfy you. It is important to recognize that if you are overweight it is because you were doing the only thing that you knew how to do to be kind to yourself. It’s okay. Now you know consciously what is going on inside of you and you can direct comfort in a way that is beneficial rather than self destructive. It might suck at first like pulling off a band aid but it will get better.
So yes you can have a life filled to the brim with everything that makes you happy including dessert just so long as dessert isn’t the ONLY thing that makes you happy. Weight loss is sure to follow when you lead an authentic life.